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You can become a Human Relations Expert; here’s a start

Building relationships means everything to me; whether business or personal. Today, is June 1 and it seems fitting to turn to the personal side of relationships.

Over and over again I am asked how to find a Forever Love. You know that kind of love that makes you smile just to be alive. The book I wrote on the subject became a #1 bestseller so I feel I can offer some input.

Really it’s all about becoming a human relations expert. If you can’t get along with people in general, how can you expect to attract your special Forever Love.

Some simple tips to start your relationship journey are as basic as it gets:

  • Smile – it’s simply the best way to put anyone at ease.
  • Act and behave in a friendly way – don’t go overboard but keep the walls down.
  • In early stage relationships, let the other person do most of the talking – you’ll learn a lot.
  • Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. You might feel their “pinch”.
  • Look at life from their perspective – we all have had experiences which have shaped our lives.

These are truly basic concepts and they are brilliant. Too many people miss the simple stuff! They try to over complicate the obvious.

Remember to check your tongue at the door. It’s hard to do sometimes because in this quicker than quick world we live in, we all fire off quick replies.

No matter how far along you are in any relationship, be careful to not criticize. By criticizing, we do not make lasting changes and most often incur resentment.

“As much as we thirst for approval, we dread condemnation.”

Criticism is the quickest way to stop a relationship dead in its tracks. Rather than criticize, ask questions to help you clarify the situation. Asking questions will give you time to delve deeper into the potential relationship in a productive manner.

How much more can you accomplish if you decide to look for the good in everybody? You may not want to continue in a relationship, but you can leave the relationship and the folks in it in a healthy situation.

If you found this post useful, please forward to 5 people you know would benefit from this post. I invite your comments as we all learn so much more from each other.

It’s All About Relationships

– truly everything is!

Marcia Reece, the inventor of Sidewalk Chalk, is the #1 Bestselling author of Secrets of the Marriage Mouse and The Ultimate Online Media Directory. She serves as the founder of Aspen Support Group. Her latest book is available on her website at www.marciareece.com or on Amazon.com

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46 mornings in a row precisely at 9:00 a.m.

The value of being determined and consistent became Very Real to me many years ago when I was trying to get Wal-Mart (when they had only 66 stores) to buy my product.  I called my buyer every morning, precisely at 9:00 a.m.  I did not call at 8:57 a.m. and I did not call at 9:02 a.m.  I called for 46 mornings in a row precisely at 9:00 a.m.  On the 46th morning, my buyer’s assistant told me my buyer would see me at 11:00 a.m. that day!!  Well, the rest is history and the consistency of that phone call started a chain of events that changed my life and grew my company to 70% worldwide market share … far beyond my wildest dreams.   

This lesson came back to me on Friday while lunching with a group of colleagues. One in the group said he had called a potential client 3 times and he stopped after the third call assuming she didn’t want to do business with him.  I told him my Wal-Mart story hoping it would inspire him to continue his chase.

I do believe today we need to find unique and clever ways to reach those we want to do business with. Maybe 46 consecutive calls won’t work today as well as it did back in the 1980’s.

So many emails…Too many voice mails…Snail mail; what’s that?? 

What about reaching those folks by giving them something that will help with their work load. Send them information they can use with no expectation of getting anything in return – except you implant the thought in their minds that you are someone who is generous, knowledgeable, and helpful. Quietly kill them with kindness and they will take your call and be more receptive to your needs. 

Please share what tips you have that helps you reach hard-to-reach contacts. I know there will be some interesting techniques from which we all can benefit.

I look forward to hearing from you.

My best to you,

Marcia

http://www.marciareece.com

#1 Best Selling Author

Secrets of the Marriage Mouse

The Ultimate Online Media Directory

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