Building relationships means everything to me; whether business or personal. Today, is June 1 and it seems fitting to turn to the personal side of relationships.
Over and over again I am asked how to find a Forever Love. You know that kind of love that makes you smile just to be alive. The book I wrote on the subject became a #1 bestseller so I feel I can offer some input.
Really it’s all about becoming a human relations expert. If you can’t get along with people in general, how can you expect to attract your special Forever Love.
Some simple tips to start your relationship journey are as basic as it gets:
- Smile – it’s simply the best way to put anyone at ease.
- Act and behave in a friendly way – don’t go overboard but keep the walls down.
- In early stage relationships, let the other person do most of the talking – you’ll learn a lot.
- Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. You might feel their “pinch”.
- Look at life from their perspective – we all have had experiences which have shaped our lives.
These are truly basic concepts and they are brilliant. Too many people miss the simple stuff! They try to over complicate the obvious.
Remember to check your tongue at the door. It’s hard to do sometimes because in this quicker than quick world we live in, we all fire off quick replies.
No matter how far along you are in any relationship, be careful to not criticize. By criticizing, we do not make lasting changes and most often incur resentment.
“As much as we thirst for approval, we dread condemnation.”
Criticism is the quickest way to stop a relationship dead in its tracks. Rather than criticize, ask questions to help you clarify the situation. Asking questions will give you time to delve deeper into the potential relationship in a productive manner.
How much more can you accomplish if you decide to look for the good in everybody? You may not want to continue in a relationship, but you can leave the relationship and the folks in it in a healthy situation.
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It’s All About Relationships
– truly everything is!
Marcia Reece, the inventor of Sidewalk Chalk, is the #1 Bestselling author of Secrets of the Marriage Mouse and The Ultimate Online Media Directory. She serves as the founder of Aspen Support Group. Her latest book is available on her website at www.marciareece.com or on Amazon.com