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You can become a Human Relations Expert; here’s a start

Building relationships means everything to me; whether business or personal. Today, is June 1 and it seems fitting to turn to the personal side of relationships.

Over and over again I am asked how to find a Forever Love. You know that kind of love that makes you smile just to be alive. The book I wrote on the subject became a #1 bestseller so I feel I can offer some input.

Really it’s all about becoming a human relations expert. If you can’t get along with people in general, how can you expect to attract your special Forever Love.

Some simple tips to start your relationship journey are as basic as it gets:

  • Smile – it’s simply the best way to put anyone at ease.
  • Act and behave in a friendly way – don’t go overboard but keep the walls down.
  • In early stage relationships, let the other person do most of the talking – you’ll learn a lot.
  • Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. You might feel their “pinch”.
  • Look at life from their perspective – we all have had experiences which have shaped our lives.

These are truly basic concepts and they are brilliant. Too many people miss the simple stuff! They try to over complicate the obvious.

Remember to check your tongue at the door. It’s hard to do sometimes because in this quicker than quick world we live in, we all fire off quick replies.

No matter how far along you are in any relationship, be careful to not criticize. By criticizing, we do not make lasting changes and most often incur resentment.

“As much as we thirst for approval, we dread condemnation.”

Criticism is the quickest way to stop a relationship dead in its tracks. Rather than criticize, ask questions to help you clarify the situation. Asking questions will give you time to delve deeper into the potential relationship in a productive manner.

How much more can you accomplish if you decide to look for the good in everybody? You may not want to continue in a relationship, but you can leave the relationship and the folks in it in a healthy situation.

If you found this post useful, please forward to 5 people you know would benefit from this post. I invite your comments as we all learn so much more from each other.

It’s All About Relationships

– truly everything is!

Marcia Reece, the inventor of Sidewalk Chalk, is the #1 Bestselling author of Secrets of the Marriage Mouse and The Ultimate Online Media Directory. She serves as the founder of Aspen Support Group. Her latest book is available on her website at www.marciareece.com or on Amazon.com

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5 Secret Questions hold the key to life

Often times I’m asked how it is so easy and seemingly effortless for me to meet strangers and soon have them turned into friends.

It begins with my genuine interest in people. It has always been my belief that I can enjoy anyone for at least 20 minutes. Sometimes 20 minutes is enough; often times a lifetime is not nearly enough. People genuinely interest me. They all have stories and I love to pull those stories out.  You see, I have discovered to make others feel important, show a genuine interest in them. Once they feel valued (important) they will open up and shortly thereafter a relationship is born.

To be successful, be genuinely interested in other people. I always learn so much from other people. It’s so easy to be interested, so why not be interested

To make others feel at ease with me, I’ve honed a specific set of easy-to-answer questions. Soon you will learn these questions. Commit them to memory (write them down until you have them memorized) and soon you can make everyone you meet comfortable with you.

When we build bridges with people we are more likely to create great relationships, to get cooperation and to conduct business. Talking with other people becomes easier when you realize that everybody’s got a story. And those stories, in most cases, are very interesting. These stories are so fascinating to me and it’s amazing how much I learn in about five minutes. We can all learn so much from the challenges, successes and adventures of others. When you meet someone new and find a way to allow them to talk, they will quickly hold you in high esteem. They will feel comfortable with you within minutes and they will often want to talk with you further. So, how do I get so many people to talk with me so easily? Getting people to talk with you becomes simple when you have specific, easy-to-answer questions that you can use every time. These questions will make you feel confident and make the person you are meeting feel important. Anyone will find these questions easy to answer. Make sure your tone is inquisitive and calm when asking these questions. No inquisition here.

Question 1:

I’m just curious, where are you from originally?

Starting this question with “I’m just curious”, relaxes the person you are asking. They are disarmed and comfortable right away. This question always leads to the beginning of a person’s story.

Now Question 2 can go two directions.   If the person you asked are from a place different from where they are now, ask:

What brought you here?

If they are from the same place where you are asking the question, ask:

Have you lived here all your life?

Question 3 is:

Do you have a family?

This questions immediately creates great relationships. People love talking about their family.

Question 4 is:

What do you do? 

Question 5 is:

What did you want to be when you were growing up?

Because I owned a toy manufacturing company, I often also ask

What was your favorite toy when you were growing up?

Every person on the planet played with something when they were kids and this question is a wonderful ice breaker.

Everyone likes talking about their roots and about their families. Once you get someone started with easy questions, they’ll usually find it easy to keep talking. If the person you’re talking to is someone you’d like to speak with again, or do business with in the future, make note of the answers to these questions as soon as you have a moment. When you speak in the future, you can refer to some of their answers. This wins massive brownie points and showed you truly cared enough to remember. People are honored when we let them talk and even more so when we refer to something they told us in the past. That shows that you were genuinely interested and took the time to remember.

Many people have related to me that they were amazed with how much they learned about other people when they started using these questions. These questions will give you an easy and non-threatening way to start conversations and to make people feel important. You will see the magic this process creates in your ability to talk with others.

If you found this post useful, please forward to 5 people you know would like these questions. Please suggest they go to my website to learn more about me ~ www.marciareece.com

Remember:

It’s All About Relationships

– truly everything is!

Now practice your questions and let me know the results you achieve. Have fun and get to know some incredible new people with these fail-proof questions.

Marcia Reece, the inventor of Sidewalk Chalk, is the #1 Bestselling author of Secrets of the Marriage Mouse and The Ultimate Online Media Directory. She serves as the founder of Aspen Support Group. Her latest book is available on her website at www.marciareece.com or on Amazon.com

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