Are you taking responsibility for your success or are you playing the blame game?
Wealth File #1
Rich people believe “I create my life.” Poor people believe “Life happens to me.”
There are 3 clues to identify those playing the victim role: Blame, Justifying and Complaining. We covered the Blame Game. So now we’ll look into Justifying.
#2 Justifying – If a victim is not blaming, you’ll often find them justifying. We all rationalize at times, it is a coping mechanism for things we feel we can’t change. You will find ‘poor mentality’ people saying something like “Money is not really important.”
What I’ve found on most occasions is anyone who says money isn’t important, doesn’t have any. That statement is a justification or rationalization for something they feel they can’t change… being broke, living check to check, having more month left over at the end of the money…
“Money is extremely important in the areas in which it works, and extremely unimportant in the areas in which it doesn’t. You can’t pay your mortgage with love. Peace doesn’t build hospitals or schools. If you find yourself justifying the importance of money, stop yourself, go to your mental Money Folder and take that bad information out, shred it and move on! Replace those negative thoughts with positive affirmations.
#3 Complaining – Complaining is the worst thing you can do for your health or wealth because you attract what you focus on. Complaining focuses on what’s bad in your life instead of what’s good. Dale Carnegie’s famous advice is succinct in just 5 words: Don’t complain, criticize, or condemn! His advice was given in the last century is still solid advice to live by today.
Remember the power of the tongue?
Complainers use that power in a negative way. Don’t hang around complainers because you’ll find yourself complaining too. We all have something to complain about but rich people don’t allow themselves to go there.
Here’s a challenge: For the next 7 days don’t complain at all. Not about your work, not about your kids, not about your social life, nothing! Not about lack of close in parking spaces, that stupid driver, your friends, your parents, NOTHING!! Not just out loud but in your head as well.
Over a seven-day period you will create the best habit on the planet, the habit of not complaining.
Blame, justification and complaining simply mask the problem. They are like a drug temporarily relieving the symptom but never getting to the root. We’re here to get to the root. What do we get out of being a victim?? Attention. People thirst for attention. However, most are confusing attention with love.
When a victim blames, justifies or complains and someone acts like they give a hoot, they feel better. They feel the love when often times it’s not love at all, it’s just a way to hopefully get them to SHUT UP.
There is no such thing as a really rich victim!
Wealth File #2
Rich people play the money game to win. Poor people play the money game not to lose.
You can have the best defense in the NFL but if you can’t score points you lose. You have to go on the offensive in life to win.
The primary concern of the ‘poor mentality’ is survival and security instead of creating wealth and abundance. It’s important to always concentrate on being generous on all occasions vs. occasionally being generous. You have to have a higher level of belief to be generous on all occasions. You have to understand that a small portion of your wealth comes from your efforts but mostly from powers greater than you.
If your goal is to have enough money to pay bills, you lose. If your goal is to be comfortable, you lose. Go on the offensive. Shoot for the stars and if you miss, you’ll still be “comfortable” beyond belief.
Wealth File #3
Rich people are committed to being rich. Poor people want to be rich.
If you asked someone if they wanted to be rich, about 9 out of 10 would say yes. The one or two that says no, run away from them as quickly as possible!! The truth is most people have something in their subconscious mind (their wealth files) that tells them there is something wrong with being rich. Here’s a laundry list of why people don’t want to be rich.
1. What if I make and lose it? I’ll be a failure
2. I’ll never know if people like me for me or if it’s just my money.
3. It’s too much work.
4. I could lose my health trying.
5. I’ll be in a higher tax bracket
6. My friends and family won’t like me. They’ll think I’m uppity
7. My kids could get kidnapped
The list goes on and on. These are “REAL” wealth files that people have in their subconscious mind. They may consciously say that they want to be rich but until they address those embedded beliefs it just is not going to happen.
If, by some miracle it does happen to them, with their mindset, they will “lose it all” just like they thought.
The fact of the matter is you can be rich. You deserve to have it all. But if you’re sending mixed messages to your brain and to that higher power which is able to do exceedingly and abundantly above what you can do, you’re going live a “comfortable” life or worse.
The number one reason people won’t get what they want out of life is they don’t know what they want. Rich people are totally clear about what they want and they pursue it daily. They want WEALTH. The fact of the matter is you always get what you want, subconsciously. Your brain is a powerful thing. Remember, the subconscious mind works 24-7-365 moving you towards your thoughts.
You have to really want wealth subconsciously and be willing to do whatever it takes to achieve it. There are several levels of wanting:
- “I want to be rich”, which means I hope I hit the lottery. Wanting alone is useless. Billions of people “want” to be rich.
- “I choose to be rich” which is a much stronger energy.
- “I commit to being rich” which is the ultimate ingredient for success. Commit is to devote oneself unreservedly. Hold nothing back, 100% – WEIT (What Ever It Takes).
If you are not fully, totally and truly committed to creating wealth, chances are you won’t
Try saying “I commit to being rich”. It either gives you a feeling of power or it discourages you. Do a mental mind switch; and do it now.
But “I’m trying really hard” you might say. Trying means little. What are you trying? Do you know exactly what it takes to make money? Once you have the proper information you have to believe in your heart (which means deeply embedded in your subconscious mind) that you absolutely deserve success! Once you truly commit, you clear the noise and clutter from your brain files.
Once you commit you open the way for God to work. Don’t sit on the fence; you’ll get nothing out of it but a cramp in your butt. You have today. Make the most of it. It won’t come back again. Ask someone with a terminal illness what they think of each day. Watch them and you will see they don’t waste a moment. And we should not ever waste a moment!! Life is precious and it is a gift!
If you have a problem with long-term commitment, try committing to today. Every day I do 3-5 things to move my business forward. I spent all last week writing my 3rd book. I’m moving it forward.
Create curiosity! Set up an appointment! Make your appointment count. Help your client make a decision. That’s what you get paid for – promoting your business and collecting decisions.
This has gotten pretty long, so more soon.
And so life goes…on and on