Monthly Archives: January 2013

Very exciting news to share with my blog community

Suzanne and Robert Henry met and married several years ago thanks to the Marriage Mouse.  They are a lovely couple and celebrated their first anniversary welcoming Zane into their life.  He is an amazing little boy ~ curious, tri-lingual, sweet, and just all around precious.

Today, Suzanne and Zane announced his new career change.  Sometime around the end of July, 2013, he will be promoted to Big Brother!

So excited for all these lovely happy moments.

All because of the Marriage Mouse!!

And so life goes…on and on!

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A new way to think about boiling water

My longtime friend and former neighbor, Clara Capano, sent me this wonderful story today.  It says so much to each of us…

Grandmother Says… Carrots, Eggs, or Coffee; “Which are you?”

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.

Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, “Tell me what do you see?”

“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.

She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they got soft.She then asked her to take an egg and break it.

After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.

Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked. “What’s the point,grandmother?”

Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity–boiling water–but each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” she asked her granddaughter.

“When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?”

Think of this: Which am I?

Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff?

Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level?

Thank you, Clara.  There’s such a good lesson here for all of us to contemplate.


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My AMAZING Friends

For 30 years I’ve enjoyed the friendship of Al and Melinda Daigle.  I met them when I first moved to Niwot in the early 80’s.  They are both industrious and very hard working; clever and creative; talented and tenacious.
For many years, they lived on the East Coast and I missed them.  They have returned back to Colorado to retire and decided to build a zero-energy home which is a pretty new concept.  W E L L…did they ever take on a project.  They have put their lives in storage and have lived in a camper for I’m guessing two years now while they endured delays and more delays from the company they bought their new home from.  The “company” was to have supplied the critical main components and my two talented friends were going to do all the finish work.
It didn’t work out quiet like that and they have had to do much more than they ever imagined.
Well, this year was the first holiday they have celebrated in their home – mostly still unfinished.  But they were able to gather friends and family in their garage – with space heaters supplied by neighbors.
Melinda wrote a beautiful poem which I wanted to share with my community.  It really does exemplify how we learn to adjust and adapt as we must to the circumstances life gives us.  The poem is a beautiful reflection of these two amazing people.  I hope you enjoy it.
“A Pilgrim Thanksgiving”
by Melinda Daigle
I’m thankful we’re together
To christen our home this way
It really means so much to me
To be together on Thanksgiving Day.
I can’t believe you all are here
Especially our daughters three
Family, boyfriends and good friends, too
One big extended family.
We have so much to be grateful for
It’s been a long road for sure
Thanks to Al we have a roof on top
And very soon our own front door.
Heat, electricity and plumbing, too
It’s not far down the road
By next year at this time
I’ll have a washer to unload.
I don’t know if I’ll like more space
Than our camper built for two
But somehow I’ll adjust, I’m sure
We’ve certainly learned how to make do.
We never forget to sometimes share
Good times with family and friends
We couldn’t ask for a better home
With a view that just never ends.
Al would say he’s thankful, too
Cuz he chose such a patient wife
Not every woman would be like me
On that you can bet your life.
The Pilgrims and the Wampanoag
Celebrated their first successful harvest
Deer, corn, shellfish, roasted meat and cranberries
Not stuff bought at a supermarket.
So one warm day, we had the idea
To host our “Pilgrim Thanksgiving”
Being together in this rustic setting
Should remind us there’s a lot more to living.
You don’t need stuff to be happy
I’ve definitely learned that as well
I don’t even remember what I have anymore
What we kept, gave away or did sell.
So let’s take time to remember
That life is truly a blessing
Thank you all for making our house a home
Oh…and would you please pass the dressing?
What a lesson for all of us!  Thanks, Melinda

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Blog was hacked…

Sorry I was gone for so long.  My blog was hacked and it took a bit to get security back around the posting.

Well, it’s a new year.  2013 is here and it’s time to make steps forward to keep all the promises we’ve made.

One thing that’s important for me at the end of each year is to evaluate business and personal relationships.

It’s always hard to end a friendship but sometimes it is necessary.

It’s not easy but to end a friendship, be clear that you need distance, but avoid getting into specifics.  You might say, “I’ve realized I need to take a break from our friendship. I have so much going on in my life right now, and I need to take more time for myself.”  Now isn’t the time to try to change your friend or teach a lesson. Above all, be sure you want to end the relationship. It’s unlikely you’ll ever be able to return to the same level of intimacy.

Have a wonderful evening and remember to pay a kindness forward.


And so live goes…on and on.


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