The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your own arm.
We all need support from other people. Love, encouragement, words of advice and friendship will help you get through the important stages in your life. When people are in your corner, you feel like taking on any challenge. As important as help from others may be, though, it all has to start with you.
Writing The Book has certainly found me turning to lots of people and places for suggestions, advice, and help. However at the end of the day, the decision is mine ~ especially since the ramifications of those decisions has a direct bearing on my checking account and no one else’s. At some times the choices are daunting and it’s not always easy to know which way to go…but my gut instincts remain a great, trusted, and reliable resource.
I spent most of the day today playing sort, file, and toss out. I had gathered too many stacks of stuff, research, reading materials and the like. So today, they have all been tossed, filed, or cataloged so I can find them when I need them. It’s nice to start with a clean desk.
During this process, I have been amazed to see all the progress and small successes I have already achieved in writing The Book. It’s been a wonderful journey.
So, while it would be nice to turn over the tough decisions to someone else, or if you’re waiting for someone to solve your problems, or wondering when someone is “going to do something about that,” you may be waiting a long time. As usual, look to yourself first. Take responsibility for your own situation and think of what concrete steps you’ll take today. If you’re going to need help, it’s only fair that the person with the most at stake (you) is willing to make the most effort. When someone is pulling you out of a hole and has grasped your hand, you still must take the first step to climb out, or you’re just going to be hanging there.
My Buffalo Herd has been really busy helping one of our friends this week, and we all wish her smart decisions and the right choice For Her ~ she’s the only one who ultimately will be affected.
And so life goes…on and on.